I’ve been marreid for five years, and we have three kids between us; two are mine from a previous relationship, and one is hers. Recently, I’ve come across some unsettling rumors from a family member—though it’s worth noting this particular relative has a reputation for dishonesty. They’ve mentioned that my wife is only staying in the marriage because she’s grown attached to my children.
Over the past couple of months, there have been noticeable changes in her behavior and requests which are causing me concern:
- She has asked to get an Invisalign treatment.
- She wants cosmetic surgery, specifically a tummy tuck and breast augmentation.
- She’s been taking steps to fix her credit so she can purchase a car solely under her name.
- She got prescriptions for weight loss drugs like Wegovy.
- Recently, she expressed a desire to quit her job.
- Most troubling of all, she’s brought up wanting to move 3000 miles away with her 20-year-old biological daughter for what she claims would be “just a year.”
These actions seem quite drastic and are quite sudden, leading me to feel uneasy about the future of our relationship. I’m trying to understand her motivations behind these changes and whether they signal deeper issues in our marriage that need addressing.