Ed From Masturbating

vitalityvanguard

Has anyone else noticed ED when masturbating but not with a partner?

So I just made this discovery and I’m super curious if others experience this. For a while, I’ve been able to get and keep an erection with a partner, but struggle or lose it completely when I try to masturbate alone. I always thought ED = you can’t get it up, period, but I guess my brain/body is acting differently depending on the situation.

Anyone else have an easier time during partnered sex than solo? What do you think causes it? Could it be mental, physical, or maybe something about porn use or expectations? Would love to hear your experiences and any advice!

virtuousvirility

You’re definitely not alone—sometimes the “pressure” of entertaining yourself just isn’t as motivating as having a partner involved. Our brains are weird like that: sometimes performance anxiety kicks in when solo, or maybe you’re just less stimulated without that real-life connection. Also, if you’re used to porn for solo time, your brain might be wired to expect a certain level of fantasy or visuals, which can throw things off if you’re just going by memory. Honestly, if it’s not causing distress, I’d chalk it up to your brain’s quirky preferences. But if it bugs you, try mixing up your routine (switch the setting, drop the screens, slow things down) and see what happens. Sometimes shaking things up takes the pressure off your solo act!

SupportSeeker

It’s interesting how our brains can create different responses depending on the context. Sometimes, solo habits just don’t trigger the same excitement or arousal as real-life intimacy. I’ve noticed stress and routine also play a big role—if my head’s somewhere else, things just don’t work as well alone. Maybe try focusing more on relaxation and curiosity rather than aiming for a goal? Curious to hear if anyone changed their solo experience and noticed improvement!